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Don’t wait your turn!

We’ve already established that my Facebook (henceforth FB) News feed gives me the MOST. Part of my self care is ‘unplugging’ especially from FB.

I have a homegirl who checks in on me ever so often. I told her this morning I was super anxious. She said “maybe unplug from FB for today”. That’s EXACTLY what I needed to do.

The FB commentary issues that have got under my eyelashes lately are Karrueche and Chris Brown, the bathroom bill (and many other bills Jesus), immigration and how I’m not ‘woke’ cause I’m Christian.

I have learned valuable lessons in FB debates. It’s usually best to keep right on scrolling. Thoughtful conversation usually happens sans audience and one or one. Anytime we broadcast something, it’s to get a reaction and to show off for our friends. Which is in why my view FB debates go south FAST. I usually want to be real petty by the 3rd exchange and I’m trying to do better so I usually just skip them all together. auntie-max

The second lesson is that a good number of people are not smart or open minded enough to debate with. For example, in order to talk about rights for LGBTQ people, you must understand, sexual preference, gender as a social construct and biology. Lots of people don’t.

For us cisgender folk, being transgender may be a hard concept to grasp (use your Googles) but it shouldn’t be hard to grasp that they are people just like us. I’m more disgusted than surprised that we are having a conversation about public restrooms.

Its hilarious to me that niggas black people scoff at any legislation regarding public accommodations. Ask your granny if she could just go to any bathroom.

AND AND AND Transphobia behind ‘protecting our women’ is disingenuous. The POTUS bragged about grabbing women buy the pussy… The President. Of the United States. Some of our legislatures are trying to defund Planned Parenthood and PP isn’t even funded federally. The government could do a much better job of protecting women. The bathroom bill AIN’T one of ’em.

Lets talk about Chris Brown ole creepy ass for a minute. It doesn’t take much to surprise me but I AM surprised that yall need receipts on Chris’ crazy when we already have them.

I posted the story and people’s comments:

“I need to see pictures.”

“Why is she just now saying something?”

“She’s just doing it for attention.”


rhianna-faceMeanwhile I’m serving Maxine Waters face. This the same guy that had Rhianna’s face swollen and bloody. Why can’t we believe Karruche? Why are we defending someone we KNOW needs therapy? Cause we enjoy his music? You go on a date with Chris Brown, sis.

These issues don’t necessarily hit home for me. I’ve never been abused by a romantic partner nor have I ever thought about which bathroom to use for my safety. But they still get to me emotionally.

I’m so frustrated that its such a struggle for people to see other people as human that deserve the rights they enjoy. It scares me because I’m very other and I need someone in privilege to see me as human sometimes and I know they don’t have to.

American culture is very much to blame I think. We have plenty of laws on the books that remind the majority that minorities are people too. Also, i think we try to give ourselves moral permission to treat people bad when we “other” them.

Immigration is a good example. You can’t say you don’t want them here because they’re brown (that’s what it REALLY is). That’s too direct. You gotta straight up make shit up. They are terrorist or innately more criminal. So i don’t have to welcome them into the country, so I don’t have to treat them as people. So I CAN treat them badly. Example below:

I’ve been waiting to use this hilarious clip. They was pissed. LOL

But seriously I know what its like to be othered and it doesn’t feel good, it’s scary. That’s why I don’t want to do it to anyone else. I also believe we have a duty to stand up for people. Its way too late to wait your turn. Errrbody is in danger, girl. I have friends that are undocumented, transgender people in my family, I’m a black millennial. I just can’t afford to wait my turn. We gotta fight unjustice for ANYONE because we are ALL image bearers of God.

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me. – Martin Niemöller-CGW

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“Every nigga that gets locked up ain’t Mandela.. ”

Whats up yall? Hope this Hump day finds you Happy and Humped.

Today I’m going to talk about how we get real tolerant of certain crimes when they’re singers, actors or athletes.

The latest figure that I guess inspired this week’s topic is the crew at Penn State. While Paterno wasn’t involved in any of the abuse, he did know and therefore got fired. I wasn’t surprised that “JoePa” knew about abuse or that he didn’t tell anyone, I’m surprised that hundreds of students got mad enough to go riot. I love sports.  I go to UofL so I know how important college sports are… but if Charlie Strong was caught doing something like Sandusky was, I’m not rioting for his job just because he wins football games. He abused a child…

Are sports more important than the mental and physical well being of children in that community? At what point do we say ‘ok, enough is enough.. i’m a fan, but that sh-t was fucked up’… Sandusky was a grown ass man butt naked in the shower with a CHILD. JoePa new about it and tried to cover it up. We know the reasons for him covering up were selfish but what if he had gone and told? His legacy would look ALOT better right now, #imho

Example #2.

Chris Brown. He fucked Rhianna UP. Her face was horrible when he got done with her. That nigga twit pic’d his domestic violence class certificate and bitches was all proud of him. #noand! Chris has plenty of female fans Rhianna’s age and younger and all of the sudden people learn what forgiveness is when he beats her like she’s a man? I’m a Christian so I do believe in forgiveness and second chances, but we also believe in consequences to actions.

Rihanna's face after Chris

I enjoy Chris Brown’s music. My vagina called his name when he did that performance with Ciara on the BET awards. But what he did was wrong and forgiveness should’ve been WAYYY delayed. Too many excuses were made for Chris and Rhianna took wayy too much of the blame. The fans should’ve been able to identify with Rhianna more than with Chris… and THEN when he threw a temper tantrum on Good Morning America? What a big baby! THATS when I knew we had let Chris off the hook too soon.

Who’s a good third example…

We could talk about all these rappers that we trying to ‘free’. It was Boosie’s birthday yesterday. #FreeBoosie popped up on my newsfeed and time lines once again yesterday. There are a few problems with these rappers who get locked up… You have money and influence, why’re you still doing broke nigga shit? That’s the thing. You hafta take the hood out of a nigga, while taking that nigga out of the hood. I’m digressing…

Futhermore, these niggas break the law. Wayne, T.I. and Boosie all broke the law. What about those of us who know people in jail that have been wrongly convicted, or those of us who have had friends murdered and their murderers didn’t see any consequences?  As a part of both of these groups, I think its offensive to scream Free Boosie when he was involved in someone’s murder, and when I have a close relative in jail right now simply because he could’t afford a good attorney.

We have to think about what we support when we continue to support people who have murdered, abused children and men who’ve beat women. What is that saying about what we’ll tolerate? Murder’s cool long as it isn’t one of my friends. Fuck all the little boys you want as long as you have a successful football program. Beat ya girl all you want as long as you can dance…

Wrong is wrong is WRONG!

Yall have any other examples for me? What about females that we elevate and tolerate just because they’re attractive? Kim K, Amber Rose? Flood my comments!




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