Can I be honest?
Over the past month or so, My Facebook newsfeed has really vexed me. I be looking at my phone like Chloe.
Controversy has an interesting way of bringing out people’s true colors. A lot of my Facebook friends’ true colors are NOT pretty and it’s frightening. Frightening because people I associate with, do business with, dance with, church with and everything else have some problematic ideas about identity in the context of race and sexuality especially; AND are willing to broadcast their stupidity opinion.
As someone that is a part of a few marginalized groups and with loved ones in those groups I take people’s statuses personal. As a Christian, I don’t want to be associated with the judgmental people that are the face of the church and I hate when somebody is representing Jesus Christ wrong.
I don’t want to lose friends and I haven’t taken the time to go as far as deleting anyone but I know at some point I’m going to have to chose. I’m just not going to be able to associate with, chill with or work with anybody. Yall know I’m a hippie and just want to like everybody.
This edition of “Carrie is stressed about Facebook” started with Caitlyn Jenner. I was going to write a blog about her and Rachel Dolezal but my blog has a very strict white women policy and I’m not using the small space I have for white women on those two (especially since Hillary is running). I will ask this though, WHERE DID RACHEL GET HER THEM CURLS? WHAT KOREAN SELLS CURLS THAT LOOK THAT AUTHENTIC? GIRL!
The latest episode in the Summer 2015 edition of “Carrie is stressed about Facebook” is the SCOTUS’ ruling on Same Sex Marriage. This past Friday, (June 26th) the Supreme Court of the US voted (5-4) that the Constitution guarantees a right to same-sex marriage.
The gays went wild… so did the church niggas folk.
(Photo by Alex Wong/Getty Images)
Chile, the gays was waving rainbow flags out side of the Supreme Court chanting ‘Love has won’. President Obama and other politicians welcomed the decision saying it ‘affirms what millions of Americans already believe in their hearts.’
On Facebook, a few church folk scurried across my Newsfeed said America is becoming Sodom & Gomorrah. (2 of which I thought were gay themselves… None of my business).
Sodom & Gomorrah?! JUST NOW?! 2015 legislation makes America Sodom & Gomorrah?
Not chattel slavery. Not Jim Crow. Not Reagan. Not the Prison Industrial Complex; but Same-Sex Marriage.
Things I want to say when I comment on people’s statuses
“DO YOU OWN A COPY OF THE BIBLE?”
“You can’t be this stupid.”
“You and your girlfriend don’t have sex at all right? Cause pre-marital sex isn’t biblical..”
“But you married and was in my inbox just last month.”
“You just met Jesus 15 minutes ago. Seats. Several”
This blog post is to talk about why America is Sodom and Gomorrah, and why America AIN’T Sodom & Gomorrah. This is my personal analysis. All views here reflect me and only me. Let’s talk about legislation and then let’s go to the bible.
On Friday, the Supreme Court ruled that the constitution guarantees American citizens a right to same-sex marriage. Before Friday, gay and lesbian couples could marry in 36 states and D.C. The ruling holds that the 14th amendment requires states to issue marriage licenses for same-sex couples and to recognize marriages performed in other states. The ruling affected the 14 remaining states that don’t issue marriage license to same-sex couples or recognize marriages from states that do.
Also, the ruling will not take effect immediately because the losing side has around 3 weeks to ask for reconsideration. Some states (including the one I live in) are still refusing marriage licenses to gay couples.
The law does NOT force any church to perform a same-sex wedding or any preacher to sign a marriage certificate of a gay couple; separation of church and state still stands. Nor does it force you a sinless Christian to be gay or have gay sex. Oh… and the church will still get $7.1 billion in tax cuts a year so the 25 year old building fund won’t be affected by gay marriage either.
So if you’re a Christian who believes that marriage is betwixt a man and a woman and goes to a church that teaches the same sentiment. How is your life affected by this ruling at all? (Not a rhetorical question, please tell me how. My inbox is open)
There are tons of non-Christian laws and societal ideals in America and most of them are way older than last Friday. That’s why the bible says we are IN the world, not OF the world; that we’re the salt and light of the earth (Matthew 5).
What are you doing to win souls for Christ besides condemning people to hell on Facebook? Did the SCOTUS ruling take God off the throne? Jesus off the cross? Yall are giving legislatures way too much power, honey.
Now let’s talk about Sodom and Gomorrah (henceforth S&G). Yes, we’re having bible study. Turn with me to Genesis 18 and 19 and I’m going to give you a summary of the story (Get you a copy of the CAGW version of the bible and a prayer cloth for $17.99 on my website).
S&G were two cities in the bible subject to Divine judgment by God. They were completely consumed by Fire & Brimstone. It is arguably the most extensive judgment by God in the bible besides Revelation or Calvary.
So, Carrie… the people of S&G, were breaking the (Levitical) law right? This is the Old Testament. That’s why God destroyed them. No, Levitical Law hadn’t been written down. Moses wouldn’t get the 10 commandments for another 400 years. Sodom and Gomorrah is in Genesis. Leviticus 18 is 2 books way and a whole ‘nother blog post.
Fun Fact: The city of Sodom is where we get the term ‘sodomy’ that refers to anal sex or any “unnatural” sex so oral sex as well. (YALL ALL SODOMITES, CHILE.)
In Genesis 18, two angels and God appear to Abraham. (This is also the time that Sarah is told she’s going to have a baby when she’s 100 and she laughs.) God tells Abraham that S&G are going to be destroyed because their ‘sin is grievous’. Abraham asks God if He’ll spare the city if there are 50 righteous people, then he goes down to 10 because Abe knows they ratchet in S&G.
God says he’ll spare S&G if 10 righteous can be found in the city. There weren’t 10 righteous people because God ended up destroying the cities. Lot, the nephew of Abraham and his family were spared because of the covenant God made with Abraham (Genesis 15)… Anybody glad He’s a promise keeper? *runs*
The angels get to Sodom to look for some righteous people and were going to spend the night in the town square. Lot insisted they spend the night with him because again, they were ratchet in Sodom. The two angels, disguised as men go to Lots house and are chillin’ right…
Then all the men in the city come to Lot’s house asking the angels to come out because they want to have sex with them (How fine do you have to be for ALL THE MEN in the city to be at the house… Speaking of, a man came to my event Friday that looked like a thicker version of Morris Chesnut… HONEY… Sorry, where was I? ).
Lot instead offers his two virgin daughters, begging the men not to harm the angels.
When I first read this story for myself, I was mad because NOBODY mentioned Lot offered up his daughters to be raped by every man in the city! It was Israel so the girls were probably like 14 and 16! Though, they were ratchet too but that’s not until the next chapter and I don’t have time to go over that today.
The angels blind all the men in the city and Lot and his family flee Sodom. God rains down fire and brimstone on the city, Lot’s wife looks back, against the angels orders and is turned into a pillar of salt.
Ok, so WHY did God destroy S&G and will America be destroyed as well?
Ezekiel 16:49 says “‘Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen.”
So they weren’t JUST gay in Sodom. They didn’t help the poor and needy either. They were also inhospitable (gang rape is certainly not the best way to show hospitality). Homosexuality wasn’t the EXCLUSIVE sin of Sodom.
Plus I don’t see the parallel between a monogamous homosexual relationship and gang rape. It just isn’t the same thing and I think we should be very careful who we compare to rapists and why.
Ok, so maybe America IS like S&G…. but how? The housing market crashed in 2007. Banks foreclosed on millions of houses. As a result, there are 7.5 million vacant properties in America. The last census says there are roughly 760,000 homeless people in America. That means there are 24 vacant houses for every one homeless person in Sodom America.
And statistics say that a lot of vacant houses are summer homes not used all year ‘around. So, there are some families with multiple houses to live in (overfed) and there are some families with not one house to live in (not helping the poor and needy).
As a Christian, dare I say I am more offended by people not having a place to sleep than I am by two men being able to get a marriage license?
But lets go back to the gay sex cause I know that’s why yall here. In reading the text, I asked why did the townsmen want to rape the strangers and why in HELL would Lot offer his daughters instead of strangers?
Let’s look at the cultural context of our scripture. (Hermeneutics, theologians.)
In Sodom at that time, the laws of hospitality were held with the utmost respect and women in that era were owned by the head of the house, usually their father or husband. The townsmen wanted to rape the strangers for coming into their city as a warning and an act of humiliation. I told yall, they were ratchet in S&G.
The intent was to treat the strangers like women, (who were property) by making them passive in the sex act. The person on the receiving end of anal sex (the bottom, in 2015 language) is considered unmanly and feminine. Having a penis in you was made you gay, but walking across town demanding to put your penis in another dude wasn’t. (I’m getting a headache, pray for me.)
Lot would have rather made his daughters ‘unmarryable’ by letting every man in the hood rape them than be seen as unhospitable in Israel. That was worse in cultural context.
So let me get this straight (pun intended)…
God destroyed S&G, not because they were rapists, or because they had many resources and didn’t give to the least of these, but because of anal sex? Ok.
I would argue that Sodom and Gomorrah has turned into something culturally that just isn’t there biblically. Church folk have a tendency to elevate passages to higher levels above others and mold them to mean what advances their personal agenda (homophobia, in the case of S&G).
We definitely see people morphing The Word among the denominations. I’ve had Pentecostal people tell me I’m going to hell for worshiping on Sunday and eating pork and I have Primitive Baptist friends that wash each others feet. No shade, I’m not washing anybody’s feet and my greens gotta be cooked in hog. Thank God for Jesus.
A lot of stuff we do is in fact, stuff and not biblical. We just elevate it to the same level as The Holy Bible.
Furthermore, sexual abuse against children is arguably an epidemic in the church but nobody uses Sodom & Gomorrah to preach against rape or incest… Nobody called America Sodom & Gomorrah when we found out that Josh Duggar sexually abused his sisters. Does Josh’s nasty ass deserve the love of Christ more than others because his crimes were heterosexual? Incest is against ‘the law’ too, Old Testament readers.
When we see homeless people on the street and don’t bother to help them or give them a dollar, nobody calls us Sodomites.
Legislation that bailed out banks and gives tax breaks to rich people doesn’t make us Sodom and Gomorrah. But legislation that lets two consenting adults enter a legal binding contract does?
That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Also, saying America is S&G suggests that this country has ever been on high moral ground. Or that it was ‘founded on Christian principles’ (which I’ve seen a lot on Facebook). It wasn’t.
The guy that wrote the Declaration of Independence (and helped write the Constitution) of this great country fathered several children with his wife’s sister, who he owned as a slave… and kept the children he made with her as slaves as well. Moral? Christian? Naw, bruh.
Am I digressing again? This blog is getting long. Let me wrap it up.
Is it fair/accurate to compare America to Sodom and Gomorrah because of the SCOTUS’ decision on Same-Sex Marriage? No. It’s unfair and it’s absolutely ridiculous. The LGBT people I know that celebrated the ruling Friday aren’t rapists, don’t participate in bestiality (another argument I’ve seen on Facebook) or incest and do more for justice than LOTS of so-called Christians I know.
Is it fair to compare America to Sodom and Gomorrah because of other reasons? Yes and we all deserve to go to hell on a full scholarship. But while we were YET sinners *E flat* One dark Friday *Baptist Preacher voice* He Died. Didn’t He die? Stayed there, all day Saturday but EARRRLLAAYYY *runs around the church screaming*
I’m sorry. Where was I?
Why are church folk so offended by same-sex marriage? Black church folk in particular?
I believe people like to elevate themselves by looking down on people that aren’t like them. If I can look down on gay people, or on the government, I can feel higher myself. If I can exclude someone, I can feel included… that does for all people, not just black Christians. But, to be black in America is a constant state of mourning, fear and stress. Using gay people and the government as a scapegoat to deal with the condition of being black in America may help… if only for a few minutes via a Facebook status; just a theory.
Secondly, I don’t think the people of the black church are comfortable with discussing sex on ANY level especially when it has to do with sex for pleasure and not for reproduction. The nature of sex between two people of the same biological gender is JUST pleasure since they aren’t going to make a baby right? In church we’re taught to have sex to make children, period (AND not to masturbate). So we aren’t supposed to have any sexual feelings or sexual pleasure, especially women.
Thirdly, there are LOTS of single black women (in Church errr Sunday) and WAY LESS single black men. If the men can marry each other, I may never get a ring on it.
Lastly having a strong opinion on issues that don’t REALLY matter (like abortion, same-sex marriage & immigration) lets people SEEM outraged, passionate and super-saved, BUT means they don’t have to DO anything about it.
People don’t know how to influence legislation effectively, that’s why they don’t talk about things that really do matter (like racism, poverty) because they if they did they wouldn’t have an excuse to not get up and do something about it. We have the power to change things. We just don’t want it.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope this post causes self reflection and healthy dialogue with you and yours. If you’re going to scurry into my inbox, be respectful and make sure it’s during business hours (6pm-6:03pm Monday-Friday) or I’m sending memes of Chloe, Cissy Houston and Fantasia. God Bless your hearts and all your parts.