A month or so ago I lost a dear friend. His name was Xavier and he was only 18. I believe that everybody dies on time and God doesn’t take anyone early. BUT that doesn’t make the pain any easier. I am heartbroken. X and I’s moms are best friends since college, so we’ve known each other all our lives. That phone call from my mother replays in my head daily. I couldn’t process the information… I sat on the bathroom floor and just didn’t know what the hell to do. My mom told me not to get on the road (they live in Indianapolis) cause I was upset. I felt helpless. I still do. X left his parents, grandparents and brothers behind. I can’t imagine losing any of my brothers. That was a very hard trip to the cemetery. Its rare to see pain like that. It was hard for me because I knew there was absolutely nothing I could say or do.
I haven’t been exercising, paying attention to what I eat, putting the effort I should into my school work or anything. I don’t want to go to therapy. I want to feel better. I’m VERY emotional about everything lately, always holding back tears at the silliest stuff. Maybe not silly, but I’m a Sagg and we only show emotion when absolutely necessary.
I’m hurt because X is gone. I’m hurt because his parents and siblings are like my fam and when people you love that much are hurting, you feel it… that’s only possible on God-level love. I appreciate that type of love because of the benefits… but it makes for hurt too. Sometimes I just don’t wanna love cause there’s no hurt without it… but i know that’s impossible.
I’m heartbroken and just came here to write cause I was about to explode. I thought about writing it privately but i realize we will have to deal with the loss of a loved one. It always helps to know you aren’t alone.
The Homecoming King went home to be with the King of Kings. Rest in Power Xavier Loren Sommerville.