Monthly Archives: December 2011


Peace, yall. Hope everyone’s enjoying their winter break nshit. I am, thats why I missed yesterday’s entry. I will try to do well.

Today we’re going to discuss #sidechicks. This is going to be an entertaining piece so all my feminist friends, keep ‘at shit in a sack. It’s all for laughs. This entry’s dedicated to my roommate and TQ since they chose this topic.

Life is play and everyone has roles. There’s a pimp and a ho in every situation. There are bawses, wife-ables, and sides. Well, there are more roles than this, but I don’t wanna confuse yall or get too in depth the first time we discuss roles. At this moment in time, I’mma bawse (pronounced boss)… It wasn’t always this way, history on me in my side days coming later…

The main thing I want you all to take from this is Don’t treat your side-chick like your main. You don’t have to have a main to have side-chicks. We all have ‘sides’ in our lives, but while you’re single, you still gotta realize that all this muhfucka can be is a side. Treating them like a main devalues your time, money, and love. It also be having sides confused. Don’t kiss your side-chick on the mouth, don’t be bringing her to your momma house, and keep daily outings to a minimal. You start doing this shit to her/him, they’ll think they ain’t a side anymore and not stay in they lane… We can’t have people not playing the right roles in life. That’s when shit gets sticky.

Also, I need side chicks to know your role.¬†You are a side. You ain’t the burger, you the fries. You ain’t the steak, you the potatoes. If I’m with my main, I’m not going to answer the phone when you call me. No, you can’t come out with me and my friends when we galavant the town… and get yo ass up outta my bed when we done.

This all may sound harsh to you all, but its just the reality of life. I didn’t make the rules, I just got thrown into this crazy mixed up world. Everyone has a role. What’re you? You mad at this entry? You’re a side, or you have been. I’ve been a side. Granted, I was like 19 but I was with a chick that had a man fucked around and got feelings… and when it was time to get real. I got dropped. Yea, she was kissing me in the mouth, laying in my bed, buying me food, cuddling with me, taking me places, i was chillin’ with her and her child often… but I was a side. That’s all I could ever be because I tolerated that shit. When it was time to for appearances, her man was the priority. I knew that going into the situation. I still got hurt. But hey, I learnt alotta shit about people in that situation and i’m glad i went thru it so I can share my story.

So I’m being harsh and honest because I love yall and I don’t want ya hurt like me. Not saying that all side situations will hurt, but mine did. In all seriousness, I recommend being honest to all people involved. Let ya main know they the main… and for goodness sakes don’t treat ya side like a main!

What tips do YOU have for sides?



Separation of Church and State

Hi sweeties, thanks for being patient. Very busy with finals and all… I’m over this academic shit. I enjoy learning, but clawd.. I’ve been mulling around this post’s topic in my head for the past couple of days. Today I tweeted a bit about this country’s Christian influence in government…

So, this country was founded on many principles. We don’t have time to go thru all of them, but we will explore separation of church and state today. The founding fathers didn’t want the church’s influence on the government (like it was in the mother country). They wanted freedom from that right?

Well, like many principles of this country, Separation of Church and State is just rhetoric. The principle has rarely been applied in legislation. I don’t know the numbers and I’m not even sure if this is a mostly Christian country anymore, but there are lots of Christian Conservatives in power that are making this whole process counter productive.

The issue is you can’t serve ALL of the people if we base all legislation on Christian belief. Everyone isn’t Christian. Some Christians are against Homosexuality, unfortunately those are the ones in power and same-sex couples still can’t enjoy rights that the Constitution says are theirs. If we take away people claiming that homosexuality is a ‘sin’ then there’s no reason to deny people those rights.

Also, we wouldn’t have to discuss abortion. Catholic people are like totally against that shit, which is cool. But not everyone is Catholic and as someone who isn’t I shouldn’t have to adhere to Catholic rules and beliefs. Catholics don’t believe in contraception either, and i’m really not advocating for taking condoms off the shelves. Once we take away the Christian influence from the Abortion argument, there’s no reason not to give these women (OF ALL RACES!!!!) the rights to their own bodies.

Third, Conservative Christians use that label to other-ize people and then take that and justify their mistreatment of certain groups. For example, Muslim citizens are marginalized because of terrorists… nobody has taken the chance to learn about the practice of Islam and realize that they are a very peaceful people and that terrorists are terrorists regardless of their religious affiliation. Not to mention, I know more Christian Terrorists than Muslim ones.

In conclusion, the whole system needs a makeover, but truly adhering to the principle of Separation of Church and State would benefit many marginalized people. I’m a Christian, but I realize that everyone isn’t and those people deserve the same privilege that I enjoy.